Celebrating Love and Resilience: The Journey of Srija and Valli in Tamil Nadu

Srija made history in Tamil Nadu as the first transgender woman to marry legally, with her mother Valli’s unwavering support. Their story unfolds in a revealing documentary, Amma's Pride, highlighting both the challenges they faced and the broader issues surrounding transgender rights in India.

In 2019, Srija became a historic figure in Tamil Nadu, being the first transgender woman to legally marry, following a crucial ruling by the Madras High Court. Their personal journey is the focal point of a new documentary, Amma's Pride, which chronicles Srija’s struggle for acceptance and the resolute support of her mother, Valli. “Srija is a gift,” Valli, 45, passionately expresses, as she embraces her daughter. Srija, 25, acknowledges that she's achieved her dreams—education, career, and marriage—thanks to her mother’s steadfast support.

Srija's love story began in 2017 when she met Arun, her husband, at a temple. After developing a bond over shared friends, they became a couple, wanting legal recognition of their marriage to enjoy the same protections available to other couples. They faced significant obstacles when they tried to register their marriage in 2018; the laws at the time did not recognize trans women under the traditional Hindu Marriage Act, which only defined marriages between "brides" and "grooms". However, with the backing of LGBT activists, they courageously fought against societal norms and brought their case to court.

Their determination paid off when the Madras High Court ruled in their favor, marking a monumental shift toward acceptance for transgender individuals in India. Despite gaining national attention, the couple faced adversities, including job loss for Arun due to transphobia and online harassment. Nevertheless, Srija excelled in her studies, obtaining a degree in English literature, a remarkable achievement cherished by her mother, who had limited education herself.

Their journey also highlights the widespread stigma faced by transgender people in India, where discrimination and hostility persist. Though legislation has changed to offer some protections, the challenges remain daunting. “Not everyone has a family that supports them,” notes filmmaker Shiva Krish, recognizing the unique bond between Srija and Valli.

Amma's Pride aims to reshape the narrative around transgender stories, seeking to highlight achievements rather than just struggles. “We want the world to see that we can lead normal lives. I am a productive member of society,” Srija states earnestly. Following the documentary’s screening, discussions were held to foster connections and highlight the importance of family acceptance for trans individuals.

The production team hopes to extend their outreach through workshops and screenings, advocating for awareness and acceptance in rural regions and neighboring countries. As for Srija and Arun, they envision a future filled with joy, expressing their hopes of adopting a child. “I want to be a grandmother soon,” beams Valli, encapsulating the love and resilience that defines their life together.